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Famous American psychologist Martin Galad conducted an experiment:
Before execution, the judge had someone scratch a wooden stick on the criminal’s left wrist.
Then, he opened the faucet and let water drip into a copper basin under the bed, making a ding-dong sound.
The dripping sound went from fast to slow, causing great fear.
After a day, the judge came back and found that the criminal had become seriously ill.
However, in reality, he had not shed a drop of blood.
This is the typical state of internal strife, where the body is still, but the mind is active.
Too much thinking leads to a scattered heart, and a scattered heart leads to weakened will.
Only by rejecting internal strife can one find the best remedy for life.
What tires you out is overthinking.
On February 9, during the Beijing Winter Olympics,
in the men’s 1500m short track speed skating semi-final, the world number one Ren Ziwei was disqualified due to a foul, missing the final.
In reviewing his mistakes, Ren Ziwei often said:
The reason for failure is thinking too much.
Before the semi-final, everyone was optimistic about Ren Ziwei, hoping he could win his third gold medal.
Ren Ziwei himself was also constantly thinking: how to rush to first place in the final, what tactics to use to win quickly, and what to do if he doesn’t get first place…
This excessive thinking before the race burdened him with heavy thoughts.
As a result, during the actual competition, Ren Ziwei skated poorly, made a low-level mistake, and was disqualified for a collision foul.
“I was already thinking about the final before the semi-final was over.
Before going on stage, I had already lost half.”
As the saying goes: “Those who care too much will be burdened, those who do not care will not be affected.”
Often, people feel tired not because the difficulties they encounter are great, but because they think too much.
A small matter, if thought too much, will lead to unhappiness; a big matter, if thought too much, will lead to pressure;
A good thing, if thought too much, will lead to worries; a bad thing, if thought too much, will lead to sleepless nights.
A simple heart makes the world simple; a complicated heart makes the world complicated.
The fatigue of life lies in the heart; if the heart is not tired, one will not be tired.
The most terrifying thing for a person is not how many failures they have encountered along the way, but being tripped up by various thoughts when they should be focused on moving forward.
In life, do you often feel this way:
Tomorrow’s exam, even though there is plenty of time, you still worry about whether you can catch up;
You said everything during the day, but before going to sleep, you still ponder whether you should have said it;
When others perform and sing, attracting everyone’s attention, you can’t help but wonder: what if I participated too…
Psychologists say: “Overthinking is a form of internal strife; it not only does not help you but also drains all your energy.”
The biggest loss in the world is worrying about things that haven’t happened and being anxious about results you have imagined.
A person’s energy is limited; do not take everything to heart.
In life, do your best; in relationships, let it go.
Stopping mental internal strife and not overthinking is the best state of life for a person.
What makes you suffer is emotional internal strife.
Psychologist Mike told a story about a patient:
One day, Hall was scrolling through his friend circle before going to bed and found that his colleague Allen had liked posts from mutual friends but hadn’t liked his.
Hall felt very disappointed; he associated it with his mediocre work performance, average relationship with his boss, and lack of promotion hopes recently.
He felt that not only Allen but all his colleagues looked down on him.
He regretted not spending money to give gifts to his boss.
The more Hall thought, the sadder he became, to the point of being unable to sleep all night.
The next morning, he took his daughter to kindergarten.
After being reminded by the teacher, Hall remembered that there was an event at the kindergarten today, and the teacher had sent a notice to wear formal attire, which he had forgotten.
By the time he returned home to change clothes, it was too late, and his daughter had to be disqualified from the event.
Looking at his daughter standing alone, Hall felt very guilty, thinking that it was all because of his shortcomings that his family was ostracized.
From then on, Hall became depressed.
Even a casual remark from others made him fall into deep self-blame and sadness.
He began to suffer from insomnia, lost a lot of hair, and became haggard.
There is nothing in the world, but the foolish disturb themselves.
Some pain comes from obsessing over small matters and amplifying the unsatisfactory ones.
The famous “Festinger’s Law” states:
10% of life is made up of what happens to you, while the other 90% is determined by how you react to what happens.
For sensitive people, a simple word from others or an unintentional action can deeply affect their emotions.
However, everything has its pros and cons.
The more you care about something, the more it torments you.
If you care about others’ opinions, you will be nervous due to shyness; if you focus on others’ views, you will self-blame due to mistakes; if you expect others’ evaluations, you will suffer due to mediocrity.
Life has many hardships; there is no need to fall into internal strife over every small matter.
Those who criticize you may just be picky; those who ignore you may just be indifferent.
The clearest recognition for a person is to understand that others’ words and actions have nothing to do with you.
A peaceful mind and stepping out of internal strife is the beginning of a strong life.
Rejecting internal strife is the best remedy for life.
Xiao Li and Zhu Jun are the owners of two neighboring clothing stores, both forced to close during the pandemic due to losses.
After closing their shops, both fell into depression.
Zhu Jun complained about natural disasters and human misfortunes every day, eating poorly, sleeping poorly, and often quarreling with others, causing acquaintances to avoid him.
Xiao Li was also depressed for a while, but she quickly cheered up and learned live-streaming sales online.
During the day, she tried on clothes in front of the camera while explaining.
At night, she repeatedly watched other hosts’ live-streaming videos and joined several live-streaming groups to learn skills.
In two months, Xiao Li studied over a hundred live broadcasts and filled a thick notebook.
Now, Xiao Li has her own fan group.
Not only is the repurchase rate high, but new fans are also increasing, with sales multiplying compared to before.
Life always has its ups and downs; rather than being tormented by mental internal strife, it’s better to heal yourself through action.
Perhaps action cannot bring you success immediately, but it can gradually help you out of difficulties.
Walk daily, fear not the long journey; work daily, fear not the many tasks.
Those who seem better than you have simply escaped internal strife earlier than you.
Not being disturbed by external matters enriches your soul; not punishing yourself for others’ mistakes allows you to live freely.
As Zeng Guofan said: “Adapt to what comes, do not welcome what is to come, do not mix with what is happening, and do not cling to what has passed.”
A broad mind has no worries; a big heart has no concerns.
As the saying goes: “Empty talk is the foam of water; action is the drip of gold.”
When doing things, do not fear slowness, just fear stopping.
When others are still hesitating about “whether to do it”, you have already taken the first step of action, defeating most people.
Just as snowboard champion Su Yiming said: “What lies ahead? Slide down, and you will find the answer.”
Healing internal strife, the simplest remedy is to take action immediately.
Rejecting internal strife and taking immediate action is the beginning of a better life.
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Author: Zhen Shui Wu Xiang, Source: Fan Deng Reading (ID: readingclub_btfx). As a quality content platform, Fan Deng Reading has been polishing good content and promoting good books, bringing change to countless readers’ actual lives. Original title: “Rejecting Internal Strife is the Best Remedy for Life.”
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